Kawan-kawan...

Susah jugak kalau akau nak cakap yang aku ramai kawan. Rasanya most of the time yang aku spent masa dengan kawan ialah masa aku sekolah dan study universiti. Lepas habis zaman tu, kebanyakan masa aku hanyalah untuk kerja dan keluarga. Bila dah ada anak, ,lagilah pulak. Sesekali (amat jarang) aku keluar sorang-sorang jumpa kawan-kawan lepas kahwin...itu pun jarang sangat lama-lama sangat sampai lewat malam atau awal pagi.
Memang aku macam tu...masa aku bujang baru keja dulu pun, weekends biasanya aku lepak kat rumah atau balik kampung jenguk family.
So aku tak kecik hatilah kalau ada kawan-kawan yang tak ingatkan aku kalau ada depa nak jumpa and sembang-sembang lepas kerja atau weekends.

Ada jugak beberapa orang yang aku consider kawan baik/rapat aku (tak taulah dioarang rasa macam mana pasal aku). Rapat/baik to me are friends yang aku tak rasa kekok nak contact diorang bila-bila je yang aku teringat. Tak kisahlah aku dah lama tak contact atau tak jumpa dia. Surely definition rapat aku tu tak melibatkan aku jumpa dia selalu atau habiskan masa kat kedai mamak, main futsal, bowling atau apa-apa pun.

Zaman sekolah rendah...antara yang aku rapat ialah geng sekampung dan satu sekolah.
If I can name a few... they are Ahmad Rithaudeen, Shahrom Mokhtar ....
and I've lost contact with all of them now

Sekolah menengah...biasalah kat boarding school...names that still in my mind now are Azhari, Mohd Nazir, Azmi Syukri and the only female...Normila ( we were in relationship for some time)
Still keep in touch regularly with Nazir ( staying nearby my house) and Azmi. Recently I managed to keep in touch with Azhari ..thanks to Facebook! The latest news I heard about Normila is she got married with my ex-roommate in the boarding school and she is running her own legal firm now.

Lepas habis SPM, masa tunggu result tu, entah macam mana aku selalu pulak keep in touch dengan Abdul Halim. Kalau nak kira, aku classmate dia dari form one sampai form five tapi baik-baik camtu jelah...ada something yang dia share dengan aku sebelum dia fly pegi Canada sambung belajar. Ada jugak aku received news from him at the early stage but lost contact lepas tu. Bertahun jugak rasanya.Lepas dia balik dan kerja, terkejut jugak aku bila one day dia contacted aku..and..from that time...we are in touch until now and share many stories about life and works.

Bila masuk UKM, kawan-kawan aku come from different groups of people...
Masa matrik UKM..kamcing dengan Samnudi sebab dia sekelas dengan aku masa kat MRSM Seremban dan PMKP. He is a doctor now we are still keep in touch. Ada terhenti sekejap sebab hilang phone no. Masa kat PMKP, rapat jugak dengan Khairul Nizam yang satu kelas masa kat PMKP and then satu kamsis dan fakulti kat Bangi. He took electrical & electronics but aku ambik mechanical engineering. Dia keja dengan TNB lepas tu and now studying at NZ.






Masuk UKM Bangi aku start rapat dengan Norharisham..satu kamsis kat hostel and satu jabatan kat fakulti.
Of course masa matrik UKM jugak aku kenal dengan wife aku sekarang. Kira lepas aku confirmed dengan dia dulu, surely dialah yang jadi the best friend aku sampai sekarang lah kan! he he he!







































Masa kat Bangi jugak aku masuk Urusetia Kerjaya. Ini yang paling unik sebab semua members UK yang aku kenal..aku rasa rapat dengan semua orang because we are in a small group. Walaupun ramai yang dah lost contact sekarang, I would never-never feel strange to communicate with any of them.
Amongst all...the closet with me are Baharuddin, Rahim, Ahmad Tarmizi, NorAfeendi and few more from the same batch. Still very much in touch until now...especially Baharuddin. Banyak perkara dengan hidup yang aku share dan ada yang sama-sama lalui dengan dia.

Then aku start keja...ada jugaklah yang still keep in touch sampai sekarang. Kawan-kawan daripada mula aku kerja dulu sampai sekarang...
Tempat mula-mula aku keja dulu...aku kenal Steve and Azizah ...sampai sekarang we are still in the same field of work although we are now working with different organization. Here also I knew a friend that turned to be someone I will hate in my entire life which Steve and Azizah would know the name.







Later I met with Lim Jin Aun in another company. He was my superior but after I left we still communicate for many other reasons as a friend. In the next company I knew Danny Leong, Chin Kuan Hwa and Sim Lee Sun. Worked together not for a very long time but we were just became good buddies and good friends today. Then I met with Ananthamoorthy who was also my boss but untill today we talked over the phone occassionaly.





In 2007, aku started my Master program in Industrial Safety Management kat UKM. Dah habis class early this year but pending lagi sebab thesis masih tak siap sampai sekarang due to works. Kat sana aku jumpa jugak kawan-kawan baru dan almost all of them will graduate this coming August. Lepas habis weekend classes tu aku cuma masih keep in touch over the phone occassionaly dengan Noraziman dan Hafiz. Yang lain just via yahoogroups.

Kat tempat keja sekarang...hard to say but I'm trying to be nice to everyone. Just a little but more open and close with those who where in same unit with me before I was promoted last year. They are still here except one who left to join TNB and I'm still in touch with him, Nasaruddin.

Bila fikir pasal kawan ni, aku taklah memilih sangat dengan siapa aku akan berkawan tapi aku senang being honest and straight forward with everyone sama ada dengan yang rapat atau kenal-kenal macam tu je. Sombong dengan sesiapa pun bukanlah sikap aku sebab aku akan tegur sesiapa je yang aku kenal atau rasa-rasa macam kenal kat mana-mana je. Pernah jugak aku tersilap orang tapi tak kisahlah,,bukan luak pun.

Pegangan aku mudah...aku akan hormati setiap orang tak kisah dia sapa, kerja apa, dari mana, dulu pernah benci kat aku/tidak atau apa-apa sajalah. Aku akan cakap openly apa yang aku rasa tentang apa-apa perkara dan bukan niat aku untuk sakitkan hati dia atau main-mainkan kata-kata dia. Persepsi dua hala dan ia adalah hak masing-masing. Bagi aku, kawan-kawan aku berhak untuk rasa selesa berkawan dengan aku sebagaiman dia orang berhak untuk tidak suka atau benci pada aku sebab aku pun rasa aku punya hak yang sama.



Aku akan terima dia sebagai dia untuk berkawan dengan aku dan I'm expecting the same thing from any of them. Aku takkan buang masa fikirkan kawan-kawan yang suka kencing kawan atau cari kawan only untuk menangis bersama atau nakkan something. Susah nak ukur keikhlasan kawan-kawan ni but I know who I can trust and all names that I mentioned here are some of them. Aku pun tak suka nak cari pasal dengan kawan-kawan aku atau sesapa pun yang aku kenal.

My wife did tell me that I am very peramah and it is true because sometime I can talk to a stranger in the middle of nowhere like knowing him/her for years. May be due to my attitude that we can talk on any matter as long as we are sincere and do not want to take advantage on each other. There were and still they are friends called me just for business intentions and disappeared when I turned them down but there are friends managed to do some business with me although I said no initially. I bought most all of my insurance policies , unit trusts and other services from my friends and surely they have to gain my trust and respect.
To me, it is all about the way you talk and treat your friends. I don't feel anything if strangers do that to me but with someone that you know as a friend, there are always better ways to get what you want from them.


To all my friends or whoever still remember me...
I have changed as you do but friendship can remain forever.
Hidup kita akan berubah selagi kita melangkah tapi persahabatan yang tidak ada apa-apa sebarang syarat akan lebih bermakna sekiranya ia kekal begitu walau pada usia mana pun kita bertemu semula.